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Jan. 16th, 2011 @ 02:50 am Advice
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marzipanbaklava pointed out over the Christmas holiday that I don't take my own advice. She's right, but I can explain myself. I will, however, not admit I'm wrong, my advice just can't be taken as an iron-clad rule.

The basic advice is, go out and do things! Spend time with people and be open to getting to know them. Maybe they'll surprise you, and then you can make new friends and have fun and stuff. (the best advice ends with "and stuff")

I still think it's basically sound advice. I also think it is very limited. You can waste a lot of time doing this blindly. I certainly didn't obey it tonight. When I got off work I had a text from a co-worker, "Girls night out at taco night at 7. If u want to go let me kno" I didn't even initially realize it said "taco night." If taco night were a place (event?) that you could have girl's night out at, well...then maybe it'd be harder to say no. She meant Taco Mac, an area chain bar/restaurant. I'm not a big fan. I have trouble understanding how anyone really could be. That's not the main reason I didn't go though.

She's really nice. I like working with her. Probably other nice people I like working with were there. I like most of my co-workers. I was hoping when I started waitressing that I'd meet some people I could hang out with. Now I get these invitations to, but I keep saying no.

It's not good advice to force myself to go spend time somewhere blah not doing anything in particular with people that don't make it worthwhile. These are people who don't share interests or really anything with me beyond a job. This is a job that is temporary and arbitrary.

I was also tired, and I probably had a much better night bumming around back here watching football and Exit Through the Gift Shop with urthstripe321. Also, planning to go to bed early except I'm alert and awake.

I need to find ways to take my advice, because sometimes it would be nice to have a Girl's Night Out (capitalized). One with people who pick a better place than Taco Mac. One with people that would make it fun and interesting even if it were at Taco Mac.
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From:jade_sabre_301
Date:January 17th, 2011 12:51 am (UTC)
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I feel you muchly. I went out with my coworkers once and was mostly miserable the whole time. Even just carpooling with them and their incessant discussion of things I do not care about at all is driving me nuts.

Are there other places you can go to meet people?
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From:marzipanbaklava
Date:January 20th, 2011 12:23 pm (UTC)
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Yeah…it's a tough call sometimes. You think, I COULD go hang out with those people, but I don't even really like them/think they're fun. But maybe I should do it anyway. And I've had the results go both ways—sometimes I'm glad I tried it because it turned out to be more fun than I expected, and sometimes it's just the opposite.

How did you New Year's party end up going, by the way? Ours was awesome, hope yours was too.
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From:marzipanbaklava
Date:January 26th, 2011 10:01 am (UTC)
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For real, how was your New Year's
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From:buella_pearl
Date:January 27th, 2011 02:42 am (UTC)
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It was pretty good, nothing crazy. We did shoot off some fireworks.
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From:mononoke_lynn
Date:February 2nd, 2011 08:30 am (UTC)
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I didn't do much socializing over break either. I mainly stayed home and tried to make a bedroom in the basement. Also painted the robin egg blue and mustard yellow basement bathroom. Everything was such a far cry from what I had before, so much needed to be done.
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From:buella_pearl
Date:February 2nd, 2011 08:50 pm (UTC)
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I still think you should see this all as a sign to move forward to a life and home of your own instead of scrambling for the past. It stinks that you got pushed into transition before you were ready for it and left hanging, feeling like you've got nowhere to go, but I know you can handle it. Don't let yourself get bogged down; you're better than that.
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